The last three days have been unbelievable. I have been helping a child from a family whose future is uncertain. These three days I have been watching a slow motion trainwreck and I have been fortunate to be in the position to keep the child off of the train. Today that will change and the train will speed up.
Emotions are raw and I won't get in the middle. I do hope to be able to give some tools to the adults so that they will be able to go forward as peacefully and strongly as possible.
As I was walking the dog today and thinking about this mess, it occurred to me that the best thing anyone can do in an exceptionally angry position is to be kind to the other person. It will be immensely hard to do, almost impossible perhaps, but kindness could change everything.
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz will be critical:
1. Make no assumptions
2. Be kind or sincere with your word
3. Take nothing personally
4. Always do your best
I have been sharing the Agreements with the child these last few days. Hopefully they will help for many years to come.
I am also hoping the adults will consider EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) assistance. I know an amazing MD who helps people learn and practice it, and I am hoping he can help this family. There often is a lot of history that brings people to a crisis, and there is no point in dwelling on it. Get through it and release it as quickly as possible.
I love this child and it will be hard to let go today.