Gratefulness is a large chunk of being healthy. I am not going to go on about the many people and things for whom I am grateful, other than to say that I am grateful for my family, friends, getting older, wisdom and possibilities.
When I look beyond my family of three, however, the amount of drama, angst and absurdity that others have created for themselves is…I don’t know what to call it. It is the reality that they have created, it is a reality that they clearly are uncomfortable with, and it is a reality they are not changing.
It has been a tough holiday season for some of the people I know, and it is hard to watch their journeys unfold, but that is all my little family can do. I like getting older for many reasons, but for the purposes of this post, it is because I have gained wisdom about what I can change and what I can’t. Everyone’s journey is their own, and while they intersect sometimes, that doesn’t mean that the journeys and burdens have to be shared. Where I once would have tried to dig in and help, and carry part of another’s self-inflicted burdens, I now don’t.
The human condition can be overwhelming. Or not. It really breaks down to this saying, which I have blogged about several times:
“He who has health has hope, and he who has hope has happiness.”
Gratefulness for health, hope and happiness goes a long way in forming perspective and shedding burdens.
What about those who don’t have health and are struggling with the self-imposed stress and drama they have created? They are still alive, still able to attain health, and hopefully they choose to do so and then move on to hope and happiness.
But all I can do is watch when the journeys intersect and leave the burdens alone. I have to remember that.
Happy Holidays, A wise lesson for all to take into the new year. Thanks for sharing your journey with us so that we may also share the benefits.
Posted by: Donna | December 26, 2011 at 12:36 PM