I have been overwhelmed by many good things coming my way. I could almost say too many good things. I just can’t seem to move fast enough to do them all. Because of this conundrum, I am not preparing the variety of food that I usually do, I sometimes am not preparing it the healthiest way, I am not addressing the questions about food that people ask me as quickly as I like, and that is just the beginning of my frustration around too many good things. A strange but fun situation.
When I get ramped up about not doing all that I want to do as well as I want to do it, I default to Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements http://www.miguelruiz.com/fouragreements.html. This is one of the best books I have read, and whenever I am in a flurry I default to it. The Four Agreements are relevant to every difficulty I have encountered, and are certainly relevant to the food journey upon which many people are embarking. If you are feeling overwhelmed and you do not know if you are beginning your journey the best way for you, remember the Four Agreements. If you did not properly prepare a food, remember the Agreements. If you ate something you know you shouldn’t, reflect on the Agreements. The Agreements give me the perspective I need to feel good about what I am doing.
What are the Four Agreements?
1. Take nothing personally
2. Make no assumptions
3. Always do you best
4. Be impeccable/True/Sincere with your word
Take Nothing Personally. When it comes to the food/healing journey, it is important to take nothing personally. For example, my father is less than supportive of our decision to eat organically and he is non-committal at best regarding using food to heal. At the beginning of the journey, six years ago when Colson was born, that upset me. I now know not to take my father’s criticism personally. It is about him and not me.
Make No Assumptions. Why is my father not supportive? I do not know. I could make assumptions about that, but they will not lead to the answer. In the case of my father (and step-mom), my assumptions will most likely increase the distance between us on this issue. So I don’t make any and have moved on.
Always Do Your Best. This one is the biggest Agreement for me on this food journey. It has helped me to move past my family’s resistance to my journey because I am doing my best. I remember it when I do not do things as well as I like. Why haven’t I started that next batch of sauerkraut yet, for example. Or, why haven’t I made time lately to answer questions that people ask me. Why am I still writing this blog post instead of working out right now? Because I am doing my best and I just can’t do everything when I think I should. It is paramount to remember that YOU ARE ALWAYS DOING YOUR BEST at that particular time. You are unable to do anything but your best.
Be Impeccable/True/Sincere With Your Word
This is an area where I have no worries. I use words to help, not injure. I have not and probably never will banish the occasional non-helping thoughts that sometimes develop. The good news is that these thoughts become less and less the more I follow the Four Agreements. I can only move strongly forward when I do this.